I went to the leadership weekend this Friday where we were all divided into groups. We had to do an exercise where it had to be decided amongst us and we had to save lives of some people on the basis of a brief description about each of them. There was no gender specified in any case except for one with an Asian American Woman. The rest were just descriptions like ‘a young leader’, ‘a drug dealer’ or ‘a cheerleader’. Without having realised it ourselves, we were pointed out on how we referring to all of them as ‘he or she’. It is amusing how a group of nine people spontaneously assumed ‘a young leader’ to be male and the cheerleader to be female, even though the genders were not mentioned anywhere.
Why did this happen? This is what has been instilled in us by media and other means since the very beginning- so much so that it comes to us naturally that anything which has to do with more power or control over others, involves males, and anything that has to do with aesthetic, or secondary tasks, involves females. Girls are always associated with toys like barbie dolls and kitchen sets which imply that women are meant to dress up, look pretty and cook. On the other hand, boys are associated with lego toys, mechanic sets and doctor sets. What if the girl was smarter than the boy? There is a fair chance that she would still be paid less than him in the future.
The struggle doesn’t just end at discrimination. It goes on to the point of harassment. When a woman takes the liberty to express her opinions online (because freedom of speech is too much), she gets questioned, or maybe even threatened. Word on the internet travels fast. People may or may not agree with her, but they definitely cannot accept the opinion just because it came from the ‘submissive’ sex. They may even end up at her doorstep to work the threat they gave her-as in the case of the actress Felicia Day who recently posted about Gamergate and was harassed to the point where she said,” I haven’t been able to stomach the risk of being afraid to get out of my car in my own driveway because I’ve expressed an opinion on the internet that someone didn’t agree with.”
The world may have made a lot of progress in a lot of fields, but what good is all the progress when we are not even just and fair? Why does a woman have to be harassed every time she has to debate with a male? Why does a little girl have to wear a dress and play with dolls? Just because she is a girl?